What to do after the assualt

[kinkyffbb]

Hey everyone...about 2 months ago I played with a guy who lost a butt plug in my hole. It was the tripple ripple and he waited for at least a half hour and after a break before telling me that it was inside me. He was very nonchalent and his delivery was practiced it seemed. The very next words out of his mouth were "oh, I guess you will have to go to the hospital" I kept my cool and felt inside to assess the situation. The butt plug as well as half its base were through the second sphinctre. As soon as I felt it I had an overpowering feeling that it was a deliberate act. He became quite squemish and refused to help me extract it. I called a nearby friend who came over and we managed to get it out. There are more details but the upshoot is that I feel that this man had done it to others and that in some way he was relying upon the private/taboo nature of fisting to hide what is in my mind a crime or the actions of a deranged mind.
Now the problem: I truly feel violated and I have found it hard to open my hole with trust to anyone since. Trust is one of those issues that I have had to deal with in my life and this mans actions set me back 10 years it seems. I guess I am looking for any words of wisdom from my brothers of the fist on how to counteract this damaging event. I don't want to have fearful fisting sessions for the rest of my life...I would join a convent first. I am not a vengeful person and this mans actions have been put before the universal court and he will reap accordingly...that part is out of my hands thankfully.. Also for any newbies , perhaps some thought given to how to react in situations like this might be the difference between continued use of your hole in a pleasurable fashion or wearing a colostomy bag for the rest of your life. Stay true to the fisting creed...trust......and don't let idiots ruin it for you.

[fuckmeoften]

Well man, I would say you are a very lucky man. OK- the guy is fucked up and should be outed , esp in your local area- maybe the local leather bars and clubs, just so others don't fall prey to him. But you are very lucky- getting the dildo out was one thing- but the fact you have a friend nearby, and he was cool with what was going on and came to your rescue is a real highlight. I don't think I have ever had a bud who I would be able to call and ask for that kind of help. Have you thought about warming your ass back up by playing with your bud who rescued you that night- as therapy and as a reward for his time and help <veg> You might need more than one session with him to get over all the trauma the other guy has built on your psyche--

[owen2032]

Make his name publicly known in the area to warn others. It will give you a bit of closure on what happened and help you get back on track. Fuckmeoften's advice is also very good :)

[minestuff]

what to do ¿think?
curious, what about this guy made you want to play with him? was it the first time with him? how long did you know him, talk with him before you decided
to give him your hole? was there communication and your awareness of what he was doing? or did you just hand him the keys to the car? your friend who came to your aid is a real good guy. I go through issues of trust also.
good luck.